For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. 1 Corinthians 13:12.
In the business world we have lots of rules about things we cannot say. There are questions you don’t ask candidates. There are things you can’t say to customers or to investors. There are conversations you are not allowed to have with competitors. Sometimes our communication can be so limited it feels as if our lives have become scripted and we are just playing a role.
This same thing can even happen in our home lives. Our roles of father or mother, husband or wife, son or daughter, friend, roommate, etc. can press us so hard into molds that they capture who we are.
What happens when we stop being us and become merely an actor, performing the script in the different dramas that constitute our lives?
- We lose the unique beauty that God granted us. You are the only you God ever made. He has gifted you with a singular beauty that only you possess. When you allow yourself to be defined by the expectations of the others around you, part of that beauty goes to sleep, hidden under your dramatic masks.
- We risk losing all we are with any life change. We have all seen this one. A successful business person retires and completely loses his sense of self-worth because he no linger plays the role of “boss”. Parents’ send their kids off to college and they just don’t know who they are anymore with no children in the house. Roles can end. When we allow ourselves to be defined by them our identity can end with them.
- We live alone. This may be the worst part. Even if you successfully “perform” in the different productions in which you are an actor, you know, somewhere inside, that you are more than those roles you play. You long for someone to know you, accept you, love you – the real you.
Many reflections on our text for today focus on the idea that someday we will see God face to face. We will understand His mysteries. The questions that trouble us will be fully answered in Him. But a more immediate gift of this text is that we don’t have to wait until then to experience being fully known.
God knows you right now – the real you. He knows the you beyond being a member of your work group, your family, or your church. He knows the uniquely beautiful you that transcends all your roles. He loves that you. And he preserves that you. That you is forever, resting in the eternality of God.
If you feel trapped into being less than you are, the Lord knows the person you were made to be. If you want to grow out of the different roles you play in life, the Lord will be your guide. He is already relating to the whole you. Ask God to reveal His truth about who you are this week and walk in the fullness of His knowledge of you.